priorities

arjun | 8 Aug 2017, 11:00am

One of my friends had marriage in Madurai. During marriage time her cousinwas studying in Boston and had exams. She has a day or two gap between each exam.

 She finished one of her exams, and then took flight

from Boston -> Mumbai

from Mumbai -> Chennai

from Chennai -> Madurai and finally attended the marriage and after the marriage again left for Boston to write exams.

 

This should be an example for all who says meaningless excuses for not attending marriages or any other function. Where there is a will, there will be a way. It’s all about priorities.

 


 

talking

arjun | 7 Jun 2017, 8:26am

 

We, as a society, really have no idea how suffocated people are in their emotions. Most people have nobody to express themselves entirely to. Everyone is holding back their vulnerabilities to maintain the social image of a confident and happy person.
Heart-to-heart conversations have become rare, artificial and shallow. And most hearts are filled with empty defences
Most people can't even talk to their life-partners openly for the fear of being judged or rejected. Emotions await just a release. Social images make sure weakness is not glorified. 
Children have bottled up stress. Young people suffer anxiety and depression. 
It is just lack of social support. It is lack of non-judgmental friendships. It is result of fast and busy lives where nobody has time to just sit and watch someone cry. 
It is result of instant and impatient lifestyle practices, that emotions have started feeling like waste of time
We have WhatsApp and FaceBook and social media - and we also have stress and anxiety and depression.
Our forefathers had neither. Because they talked to each other. Because talking helps.
The face-to-face type talking, the just-listen-to-me type talking, the hold-my-hand-and-let-me-cry type talking, the sit-next-to-me-and-listen-to-my-silence type talking... the talking where the person can be themselves and say anything they feel without the fear of any judgement or loss or rejection
Today, we don't like that type of talking. Those conversations when someone begins to undress one's mind. In fact we avoid people. And so, mental illness is epidemic. Naturally.
There is not much we can do. But we can offer a listening !
Let's let people talk without any fear. Let's create conversations. 
Let's start talking again.

 


 

candle light dinner

arjun | 27 Mar 2015, 10:16am

friend : "did you ever had candle light dinner?"

me : yes. i had many times.

friend : when?

me : in my childhood... in my native... when there was power cut in home during nights... we used to have dinner in candle light... :-)



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love letter

arjun | 21 Jan 2011, 4:10pm

Dear Kajal,

By keeping hope in the words of David Frost, "Don't aim for success if you want it.  Just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally", I am writing this.

There are three reasons to write this to you.

I think... I love you.

I read somewhere, "If you love anyone, just tell that person that you love him/her. To love you in return or not it is upto him/her. But they should know that you love him/her."

As said by one of my friends, after ten years I should not feel, "Atleast I should have tried".



Current Mood: thoughtful

 

ideal match

arjun | 26 Nov 2009, 3:01pm

Wife is (should be) the favourite heroine of Husband.

Husband is (should be) the best friend of Wife.



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